The Swank Counseling Blog
Written by
Dr. Quinnett Swank, EdD, LMFT
Why Is It So Hard to Know What You Need?
When someone asks what you need and your mind goes blank, it's not a personal failing. It's usually a sign you've had more practice taking care of everyone else than checking in with yourself. In this week's article, Dr. Quinnett Swank explains why your own needs can feel so hard to name and shares four small, doable steps to identify what would help and ask for support without having the perfect words.
Why Am I So Hard on Myself? How to Stop Being Your Own Biggest Critic
If you’re constantly replaying mistakes, questioning yourself, or feeling like nothing you do is quite enough, self-criticism may be doing more harm than good. Learn how anxiety, perfectionism, and impossible standards can fuel your inner critic, and how to respond without lowering your standards.
How to Make Time for Yourself Without Feeling Guilty
Making time for yourself is not always simple, especially when you are carrying work, family, relationships, caregiving, and the emotional weight of being needed by others. This post explores how to create space for yourself in a realistic, compassionate way without guilt, pressure, or perfection.
Navigating a Career Change: How Therapy Can Help
Ready for a new direction but unsure where to begin? Therapy can help you explore transitions, clarify values, and move forward with confidence.
Feeling Stuck? 3 Ways to Move Forward
Feeling stuck, lost, or not like yourself? This post offers 3 small, therapist-backed steps to help you move forward with more clarity and calm.