The Swank Counseling Blog
Written by
Dr. Quinnett Swank, EdD, LMFT
When One Partner Pursues and the Other Pulls Away: Understanding the Relationship Cycle
One partner wants to talk it through. The other goes quiet or walks away. Here’s why the pursue-withdraw cycle happens, what each partner may be experiencing, and four ways to start responding differently.
How Couples Can Communicate Needs Without Shame or Criticism (An ACT-Informed Approach)
Criticism and shutdown often hide a real need underneath. This ACT-informed guide shows couples how to unhook from shame, make clear requests, and build repair and connection without blame.