The Swank Counseling Blog
Written by
Dr. Quinnett Swank, EdD, LMFT
Why Is It So Hard to Know What You Need?
When someone asks what you need and your mind goes blank, it's not a personal failing. It's usually a sign you've had more practice taking care of everyone else than checking in with yourself. In this week's article, Dr. Quinnett Swank explains why your own needs can feel so hard to name and shares four small, doable steps to identify what would help and ask for support without having the perfect words.
High-Functioning Anxiety: The “I’m Fine” Pattern That Keeps You Stuck
High-functioning anxiety often hides behind productivity, perfectionism, and “I’m fine.” Learn the signs of this anxiety loop overthinking, over-responsibility, and constant bracing—and how ACT-based, trauma-informed tools can help you unhook, regulate your nervous system, and take values-based steps toward real relief.