The Swank Counseling Blog
Written by
Dr. Quinnett Swank, EdD, LMFT
Why Is It So Hard to Know What You Need?
When someone asks what you need and your mind goes blank, it's not a personal failing. It's usually a sign you've had more practice taking care of everyone else than checking in with yourself. In this week's article, Dr. Quinnett Swank explains why your own needs can feel so hard to name and shares four small, doable steps to identify what would help and ask for support without having the perfect words.
Why Am I So Hard on Myself? How to Stop Being Your Own Biggest Critic
If you’re constantly replaying mistakes, questioning yourself, or feeling like nothing you do is quite enough, self-criticism may be doing more harm than good. Learn how anxiety, perfectionism, and impossible standards can fuel your inner critic, and how to respond without lowering your standards.
Mental Health After the Holidays: Coping With the January Slump
If you feel emotionally low or unmotivated after the holidays, you are not alone. This post explains why January mental health can dip and offers small, realistic steps plus therapy support to help you reset.
How to Set Mental Health Goals You Can Actually Maintain
If New Year’s resolutions keep falling apart, you are not failing. Learn how to set realistic mental health goals focused on emotional well-being, boundaries, and regulation so you can create sustainable change with progress over perfection.